10 Things in my life in 10 years!

It’s quite unbelievable that 10 years have passed by and so much has changed in what feels like so little time. As the new decade approaches I won’t deny that I’m a bit scared of what the future awaits for me. I’ve identified myself very strongly as a late 20’s young woman and I’ll soon be turning 30… it's quite a scary number to be honest. Everyone keeps telling me it’s just another number yet I don’t feel that same excitement I felt when I turned 10 or 20… I feel this strange pressure of being in a certain place in my life which I’m far from being. Time after time we are told not to compare ourselves and that we are not in some sort of life race but I guess it would be unnatural not to question how come am I not where I would like to be?… Anyways, I thought that it would be fun to go down memory lane and look back at some of the "top" 10 events that have happened in my life in the past 10 years! Please by no means this list isn't for bragging rights, just sharing some intimate moments online for fun!

I earned 2 degrees in design and I'm proud of myself to have worked in both fields. In 2010, I graduated from Industrial design at Dawson College and in 2016 I graduated from Footwear Design at FIT (Fashion Institute of Technology). Both of my degrees are technical but in total it counts for 5 years of post high school education which I'm quite proud of!

I moved to New York City in 2014 for my studies and lived there for 2 years. Living in New York was a life time dream of mine and I’m very grateful to have accomplished that very early in life. I hope to some day have the chance to move back to New York and experience more of an adult lifestyle versus student life. New York isn't an easy place to live in and it can feel like a lonely concrete jungle but if you make it in New York, you can make it anywhere!

In 2017 my job in footwear development brought me to travel to China and it was quite an experience; I feel very fortunate to have traveled to China more than once during these past years. It’s been an eye opening experience and it has shown me to appreciate other cultures. Although I never had the time to really explore China as a tourist, I did enjoy seeing more of the work lifestyle and visit factories.

In 2018 I traveled to Tokyo by myself for a week and that was a life changing experience. I was coming out of a painful breakup and it simply allowed me to disconnect from Montreal. It was breather to be in Tokyo and to fall back in love with life. Japan has a special place in my heart and I cannot wait to go back.

I’ve had multiple jobs in the past 10 years from Starbucks to now working for a leading footwear company. I am truly grateful to be working in a field that I'm passionate about and that makes me feel fulfilled. I don't think everybody enjoys working but I'm thankful to have a job and to have a job in my field.

I’ve done my share of traveling in the past 10 years not as much as I would like but I can’t complain to have been able to explore parts of the world through work. I feel very fortunate to have traveled to many parts of the world and I'm simply looking forward to more trips in the future. Traveling to me is a chance to explore new places and get inspired of the beauties in this world.

I think anybody that knows me, knows that I love birds... yes call me weird or unusual for having birds as pets but that's how I grew up.. My dad got me love birds for my 10th birthday and since then I was hooked on birds. My last love birds passed away back in 2012 and since then I didn't get a bird up until last summer in 2018 when I got Coco. He's a Quaker parrot and even though he can be annoying at times he's the most adorable creature that has come into my life. I love that little green ball :) He's so small yet so clever! He says more words than a toddler!

I think I was single back in 2010, and I'm single now...but a couple of dating, relationships have happened in these past 10 years. I would say that I've had poor sense of judgment when it has come to love... I tend to believe that they love me as much as I do but I end up giving more of myself and in the process I end up losing myself... Two years ago I became single again and it has taking me time to love myself again.  After multiple failed dating attempts, I'm learning that the one relationship that matters the most is with yourself. Whatever happens in life the only person you have to fall back on is yourself. I hope to continue to love myself and be kind to myself.

10 years ago I was ashamed to tell people that I was diagnosed with general anxiety disorder but it in the past few years it seems to be a trending topic to have anxiety. I've tried many things to get rid of it but I've also learned it's not something you can just brush it under the rug and pretend it's gone. It's an ongoing process and as much as it annoys me it's also a reminder to take care of myself. I'm still learning to train myself to meditate, to work out, to sleep well, to eat well, to seek medical help if needed; it's all a process. I've also learned to be more opened about my condition with friends and I've also learned not to let anxiety block me from doing what I've wanted.

My style has evolved since 2010 and it still is but I'm glad not to feel this pressure of looking a certain way. I was quite insecure about my sense of style back in 2010 and it has taking me some time to understand what I like and also understand my body shape. I've learned not dress to impress and to simply wear what I like. I've learned to invest in key items in my closet instead of over spending on pieces that I'll purge three months later. I have a sweet spot for fashion but it's also the industry that I work in so I guess that justifies buying overpriced European shoes! Fashion is a walking art!

- Nelly (PS: Thank you for reading the entire article! Happy 2020!)